Values in a relationship

Problems in relationship occur because each person is concentrating on what is missing in the other person. Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there are few factors that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it.

I was thinking about all the possible factors that we should consider in order to maintain a good healthy relationship with our partner for the last few days and finally came up with 5 such factors which can make the difference.


Respect : I consider that , RESPECT to each other is the most important key to hold a healthy relationship. You should pay respect to your partner. If you don't respect a person, then you wouldn't notice his /her good qualities. It is such a value in life, which only increases when you give it to others.

Responsibility : The second most important factor is RESPONSIBILITY. We have many duties in life. We have duties towards our parents, we have duties to our employer. Most importantly , we have duties to our partner. We must be aware of this responsibilities and should be ready to shoulder these. It’s that magic touch which can induce a lot of trust about you in your partners mind.

Understanding : Understanding is a two-way street. Both you and your partner should have good understanding about each other… liking, disliking etc etc . I believe that understanding can overcome any situation, however clumsy or insurmountable it may appear to be. A good and healthy relationship can only emerge based on faith and understanding.. Understanding and letting go is the mantra for having a peaceful mind. Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.

Honesty : “Integrity is telling myself the truth. And honesty is telling the truth to other people.” Honesty is the base of all values. But does honesty mean that you should simply acknowledge your mistake to your partner? The answer is no. Not only should you accept your mistake in front of your partner, but you should accept mistake to yourself and admit that you are not perfect. But the road does not end there. There should be a real effort to improve yourself and not commit the same mistake again.This is the value of honesty.

Trust : Last but not the least, Trust..You can have all kinds of problems and disagreements with another person, but as long as the trust and respect are still there, the relationship can endure. Trust is the glue of life. It's the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It's the foundational principle that holds all relationships Mutual trust is vital. Lack of trust in your relationship certainly a great obstacle to maintain a healthy relationship. If you share something in confidence, you should be able to trust that the information will remain secret by the other side.

These are the five important factors that I consider are the most important values in a relationship.
Please feel free to comment to increase the list. Looking forward for your comment.