Parsopotikria......aka Side effect.....of...prem....

What is love? Mark Twain rightly said : “Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired”. People who are in love, are healthier, happier and more active socially. It is often the case that, with love, comes an aura of beauty around women, and a sense of confidence and courage in men. Those who have never fallen in love, ( like me :P ) are missing out on a great deal. Love is a product I am trying to promote for my own selfish personal gains, which include, living in a more caring and loving society, talking to people who understand love and have loved, building relationships with people who know what relationships are. How do we identify if one’s is in love? Are there any possible signs and symptoms of love? What do you feel when you fall in love with someone? Is it important to have this? How do you conclude if you are in love? Take time to realize this? Just read this… 
Let us begin this from a the person’s point view who has fallen in love:

a) Self conscious being neat and clean : Just recall the college days. How your room looked like. Jeans are stacked on one side, your wallet has no permanent place so as your wrist watch, You almirah was never be the place to keep your tees. But ever since you have fallen in , your approach towards these stuff has also got changed. “Oh….how dirty this room is…how come people can stay in such unclean room? “ This sense brings in the urge to clean the house, arrange the almirah and then finally self consciousness. The dress sense will definitely take a better turn once you are in love with her. In the movie Kal Ho Na Ho , it is correctly mentioned infact :
Dhyaan Ab Apna Zyaada Rakhta Hoon ,Sochta Hoon Main Kaise Lagta Hoon
Aaina Ho To Dekh Leta Hoon.

b) Acceptance of flaws without complaints: Yes, in the state of limerence, you might just not be able to see any flaws with your object of love. With the passage of time however, when that stage has passed, you do recognize and realize that your beloved is neither godly nor flawless. In true love, these flaws are accepted without complaints and if necessary, compromises are consciously made


c) You never get bored of the person: Never.. as in, even after several years of knowing each other. Everyday, you can talk and chatter and never run out of words, or grow tired listening. You know everything about him/her and yet he/she continues to amuse you.



d) Day Dreaming: Always is thinking about the future, in short ambitious always associated with loss of hearing. You will only come back to reality when you got a kick on you a** or got a tight slap from your friend.


e) Phone bill OMG !!!! : One of the most important factor. At the end of the month, when you got your mobile phone bill you will realize that you have utilized your phone a little heavily last month. Then and there you take resolution, that this month, I have to restrict my phone calls. But at the night…..hmmmm…who cares…bill..let it come…I will manage…….and then the same thing at month end…may be a lil less or lil high.s


f) Money….who cares  : Yap. “Save money for your future”. Elders always use the same phrase. ( Don’t know how they have the same thinking frequency). But to secure a great future we need to spend money right. So go for spending some money. Believe me, I have seen a guy who was not that shopping addicted previously, had turned into a Shopping Specialist. And that too only after he fall in love. Isn’t it a side effect?


Well, these symptoms are for real, but it takes time for you to confirm them. If you have already lived for several years with your beloved, you will be able to relate to them. And for those who are still new in the relationship, hang in there for the infatuation to pass and the real emotions and feelings to emerge.


In the end I like to mention a famous quote made on Love. I cant recall the exact phrase but it is something like this : “…love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you”

So my suggestion is whatever may be the side effect, go for it. Its not at all harmful. Enjoy every moment of love life…. 